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Ask Nora Psychic Advice Column
A free weekly advice column from a genuine Psychic Reader.
June 29, 2007
Why do I feel like my boyfriend is keeping things from me? He tells me he isn't keeping anything from me. Am I tripping or is he really keeping things from me?
You feel a nagging feeling that he is hiding things from you based on your past experiences. You have some lingering fears that the pain and things have happened for you in the past, will be happening again, so subconsciously you are suspicious and tend to assume and think the negative with every odd thing that comes up.
That being said I do sense he has a lingering connection to someone from his past, a romantic connection that is not completely over. From what I am picking up, he is not actively cheating, but he is hiding this connection from you because he knows you would not approve.
You would be having those fears and worries even if there was nothing to it, because you do have these deeply seeded trust issues. From what I am seeing, there are some important things that need to be worked through, for the both of you to be able to move on in a positive way.
June 26, 2007
My mom is sick and she has a lot of problems with money because of it. Is she gonna lose her house because of it?
Your mother is a very strong woman. While I can see clearly that she is dealing with a significant financial burden right now because of the added expenses regarding medications and medical costs. I see she has been dipping into a fund of money that had initially been set aside for retirement. While this is not ideal, it means that the expenses are not going to have a significant impact on her quality of life.
She will be able to maintain her lifestyle and provide shelter and care for herself. I sense she will also be receiving some assistance from her work, like some kind of disability benefit, to help her while she is not working.
I know it is hard, but she needs your positive vibes and thoughts right now, so try not to worry, and be there for her with supportive words, a smile and a hug, and faith that she will be alright and provided for.
April 08, 2007
Why does my boyfriend always have other women and so many friends around him? Is he ever going to make me a priority?
I sense he has a lot of insecurities and a rather low opinion of himself. He seeks out the respect, affection and approval of others to validate himself and feel worthwhile. I do sense he genuinely loves you and is happy to have you in his life, but that he has such a priority on wanting to be liked by large amounts of people. He is always trying to please and impress everyone, and you are just one part of that crowd. Essentially, within himself, he is not capable of making you a priority, because just you loving him, liking him and caring for him, is not enough. He needs his buddies to think he is cool, he needs the women at the clubs to think he is hot, he needs his bosses at work to think he is valuable, intelligent and reliable just as much, so he can feel like a worthy person.
The problem is not how he feels about you or how you feel about him, it is how he feels about himself, and where he is getting his sense of self and completion. Unless he starts identifying with hiws values and his worth internally, finding a sense of identity and value inside himself, he will continue to reach out to anyone, to feel special, and to surround himself with many people, so he can feel liked, popular and special.
I am not sensing he is anywhere near a breakthrough at this point, and that this will continue to be an issue in your relationship. I wish you all the best, but suggest it is time to begin thinking about boundaries and how much longer you are willing to be in this relationship situation.
February 08, 2007
Is my daughter ever going to sort her life out? It's so hard to sit by and watch this.
Your daughter is a very strong willed person who can be quite defiant in her choices. Even in adulthood, she will choose the opposite of something you are trying to steer her toward, just to show you she is an individual.
She is not trying to hurt you or make you worry, but I sense she feels eclipsed by your strengths and your accomplishments sometimes. She wants desperately to follow that same path, to be an individual, to make her own way, but it is hard for her to feel secure in her choices and her direction because she is always focusing on interpersonal struggles and a sense of having to fight against being controlled.
I know that you mean well, but the more you try to help, the more you try to guide her, the more she heads in the wrong direction.
She will sort her life out, she will start working again and supporting herself financially, she will learn from her mistakes, but she needs space to do this. She needs to feel respected as an individual, seen as an adult who is self aware and capable. If she feels you backing away from your role as "mothering her" she will switch her focus to her choices, her reasons for them, and begin making better choices, being more true to her real ideas and her path, not just arbitrarily fighting every good suggestion and idea you come up with.
I know you have only wanted to encourage her, but it is suffocating her and sending her down a destructive path that has been repeating itself ever since she was a teenager. Letting go, will allow her space, time to see more clearly and plan for her life in a more sensible way.
February 06, 2007
I have been trying to win back an exlover. I have tried everything from readings, spells, healings. Have been told he would come back to me and have been told he won't. Also, have been told that he's with someone else and he's not with someone else. My head is spinning. All want is for him to come back to me. Can you tell if he will come back to me?
Unfortunately he has moved on in his heart. I know that you still feel an intense connection to him, that you want more than anything to feel that you have a future together, but unfortunately, he does not feel the same way.
I do see very clearly that the two of you had an intense potential for love and happiness, but that he was not true to his heart. He did not truly appreciate and value you for who you are. He took your love for granted and didn't reciprocate or give you the same love and respect.
I understand hun that it is very hard for you to let go of him, because you cannot help but know in your heart it could be so much better right now... but you need to accept, you need to understand, that all of the potential, all of what you had, is gone. He turned his back on it, turned his back on you, and now you have to pick up the pieces for your own sake, heal, move on.
I do see he has dated someone since you broke up, but that he is not seriously seeing anyone right now. It's important though for you to know that whether he is with someone or not, it does not seem to influence him to want you back. He is very conceited, very egotistical right now, and he seems to want to find someone new and exciting, younger and more enticing, in a way to prove to himself that he still "has it".
Clinging to hope, to fantasy, will not help you, and as I can see you have experienced already, people will take advantage of this desperation and offer you false hope and promises for a profit. For your own sake hun, please, let go of your love for him, try to focus on yourself, healing, recovering, rebuilding. You are a beautiful person, you have a beautiful heart and so much to offer, you deserve more than this.
You cannot control him or influence his actions, but you are responsible for your own future, your own life. It's time to let go and focus on moving on. I wish you all the best.
February 05, 2007
I really want to know about my partner. I have been with him for over 7 and a half years. We're not married but I have 3 kids with him. I was devastated when he confessed to me that he cheated on me once. Since then our relationship has never been the same. I think to myself that I'll never find happiness again. Has he only slept with another woman just once since the beginning of our relationship or has there been plenty of others and how many?
I do sense that he was making a genuine effort to be honest and come clean about his infidelity in the past. He cares about you very much and holds a lot of guilt inside of him over is indiscretion. The problem though is that I do not feel he was being truthful. His intention was good, but I sense he held back. He was afraid to be totally open and honest about what he had done and how many times.
I do not sense his infidelities were limited to one time and one woman, as I am picking a relationship he carried on for several months, that he has not told you about, as well as another liaison with someone he was connected to through his employment.
Unfortunately though, those details have nowhere near the impact on your relationship that the lack of trust does. He has shattered your illusions of a loving and stable relationship, and you are left confused and hurt, angry and worried that it will continue to happen. What is important here hun is the decision before you. You know he has been unfaithful to you, you know he has violated your trust, and now what is it you want to do about this.
Healing, working through infidelity, is not an impossible thing, but it does take a lot of work, resolve, and a genuine effort on both parts, to reestablish trust, understanding and openness. You need to look in your heart, and find out if your love is worth hanging on to, worth fighting for, and if he is willing to be there fighting alongside you.
My heart goes out to you, I know this is painful, but it is in your hands.
February 01, 2007
I have a really good job offer but I would need to move. It would mean giving up a lot socially including a relationship that has been on and off but lately mostly on. Should I go and see what happens?
This job offer seems to be appealing to you mostly because of the fact that you would have to move. I sense in you a frustration building up, a feeling of stagnation. I feel you are tantalized by the idea of a fresh start, an opportunity to begin your life in a new place, with new surroundings and above all, new people.
The relationship you describe, comes through to me as more suffocating you than fulfilling you. I sense your partner is not a person you love or feel a great deal of affection for, however it is hard for you to push him away and truly end things. You have allowed him to guide the relationship back to "on" status because you were unable to stand up to his pleadings. It is hard for you to be firm and the guilt was too much. You didn't want to hurt him, so you allowed him back into your life, knowing full well it wasn't for the right reason.
The same can be said of some of your relationships with friends and family. When you experience disappointment, frustration or hurt, you do not work it out, let them know, you allow it to continue to avoid confrontation, until it builds up inside you and is an overwhelming sense of resentment and annoyance.
This is not healthy. I see your excitement about moving as a way of running away from all of that. But the truth of the matter is, without changing the behavior, without sticking up for yourself and letting people know when they hurt you, establishing your needs and your feelings, you will continue to experience this pattern with people you form bonds with, everywhere you go.
This job opportunity is a good one, but there is nothing so different about it to motivate your desire to go. Be honest with yourself about the motivation, and take a deep, long look at yourself, try to see the pattern, the theme in your personal relationships, and try advocating for yourself. People can only change for you and meet your needs, if you let them know what they are.
That being said, I do sense the job itself would be acceptable, but I do see that you would have some regrets. This job I see having less room for advancement, and being more stressful and demanding of you.
January 21, 2007
How many others have there been over the last 10 years? Two other psychics have told me there were numerous others, but I need a number. They also told me he has another child, a little girl. Is this true? How old would she be if it is true and does he know about her or the pregnancy? Has he been with any-one I know or have met? If so, who? Can I trust him?
You know he has cheated on you. You know he has disrespected you. You know he has lied to you. This is fact. You cannot trust him. This is fact. You need to leave. Nothing else matters.
You are getting lost in the details, lies... truth... trust. The amount of influence and control this man has over you is of concern to me, because you seem even now, desperate to hold on to him. You will not be happy and you will not be whole, as long as you remain with him. The child, the number of women, whether you have met them or not, is irrelevant. The only truth here that matters is that this relationship is toxic and you need to leave so the healing can begin, so you can be a person again. You deserve better, but you need to make that happen. He won't do it for you.
January 05, 2007
Will I find steady employment in 2007?
Yes you will. It has been a difficult process for you and I know that you have been feeling very vulnerable and insecure of your financial future, but so much of this has to do with the current job market, the competition and difficulty finding suitable opportunities.
I am picking up that May will be a very fortunate month for you and that you will secure a well paying job with benefits and a pleasant work environment. The key to making this hapen is staying focused on being positive and reaching out to employers. You will have to be proactive and project a confident and energetic demeanor to leave a favourable and lasting impression. I know this can be hard, as rejection and waiting is such a drain, but recharge your batteries, focus on taking care of yourself and making the best of things and you will excel.
December 02, 2006
My boyfriend and I broke up 3 months ago after a 4 year relationship and now's seeing a woman for over a month. I really miss him, especially because we got along very well. What are the chances of us getting back together?
He cared for you and enjoyed he time you had together, but I sense he was not ready for the level of committment and closeness that you wanted and were headed toward. I sense that he was very much focused on himself, his needs and his desires, and he felt things with you were developping too quickly, that you were becoming very attached too quickly, and he could foresee it ending badly. He did not want to hurt you, and felt it would be best to put the breaks on the relationship before it got much closer. I sense he knew in his heart that it was not the best thing to do, and that he felt guilt about that, but it was not enough to change his direction and his choice. He did not have the emotional maturity to really talk it out and let you know how he was feeling, so you could work together at keeping things comfortable for him, in many ways because he was too unsure of himself to ace the pain he imagined that would cause you. Essentially he took the easy way out.
From what I am picking up he will not be coming back to you to be in a relationship with you, though I do feel he will reach out to you and attempt to nurture a friendship. I feel it is best at this point to try and let go of your feelings for him and try to heal and move on.
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