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February 08, 2007
Is my daughter ever going to sort her life out? It's so hard to sit by and watch this.
Your daughter is a very strong willed person who can be quite defiant in her choices. Even in adulthood, she will choose the opposite of something you are trying to steer her toward, just to show you she is an individual.
She is not trying to hurt you or make you worry, but I sense she feels eclipsed by your strengths and your accomplishments sometimes. She wants desperately to follow that same path, to be an individual, to make her own way, but it is hard for her to feel secure in her choices and her direction because she is always focusing on interpersonal struggles and a sense of having to fight against being controlled.
I know that you mean well, but the more you try to help, the more you try to guide her, the more she heads in the wrong direction.
She will sort her life out, she will start working again and supporting herself financially, she will learn from her mistakes, but she needs space to do this. She needs to feel respected as an individual, seen as an adult who is self aware and capable. If she feels you backing away from your role as "mothering her" she will switch her focus to her choices, her reasons for them, and begin making better choices, being more true to her real ideas and her path, not just arbitrarily fighting every good suggestion and idea you come up with.
I know you have only wanted to encourage her, but it is suffocating her and sending her down a destructive path that has been repeating itself ever since she was a teenager. Letting go, will allow her space, time to see more clearly and plan for her life in a more sensible way.
February 06, 2007
I have been trying to win back an exlover. I have tried everything from readings, spells, healings. Have been told he would come back to me and have been told he won't. Also, have been told that he's with someone else and he's not with someone else. My head is spinning. All want is for him to come back to me. Can you tell if he will come back to me?
Unfortunately he has moved on in his heart. I know that you still feel an intense connection to him, that you want more than anything to feel that you have a future together, but unfortunately, he does not feel the same way.
I do see very clearly that the two of you had an intense potential for love and happiness, but that he was not true to his heart. He did not truly appreciate and value you for who you are. He took your love for granted and didn't reciprocate or give you the same love and respect.
I understand hun that it is very hard for you to let go of him, because you cannot help but know in your heart it could be so much better right now... but you need to accept, you need to understand, that all of the potential, all of what you had, is gone. He turned his back on it, turned his back on you, and now you have to pick up the pieces for your own sake, heal, move on.
I do see he has dated someone since you broke up, but that he is not seriously seeing anyone right now. It's important though for you to know that whether he is with someone or not, it does not seem to influence him to want you back. He is very conceited, very egotistical right now, and he seems to want to find someone new and exciting, younger and more enticing, in a way to prove to himself that he still "has it".
Clinging to hope, to fantasy, will not help you, and as I can see you have experienced already, people will take advantage of this desperation and offer you false hope and promises for a profit. For your own sake hun, please, let go of your love for him, try to focus on yourself, healing, recovering, rebuilding. You are a beautiful person, you have a beautiful heart and so much to offer, you deserve more than this.
You cannot control him or influence his actions, but you are responsible for your own future, your own life. It's time to let go and focus on moving on. I wish you all the best.
February 05, 2007
I really want to know about my partner. I have been with him for over 7 and a half years. We're not married but I have 3 kids with him. I was devastated when he confessed to me that he cheated on me once. Since then our relationship has never been the same. I think to myself that I'll never find happiness again. Has he only slept with another woman just once since the beginning of our relationship or has there been plenty of others and how many?
I do sense that he was making a genuine effort to be honest and come clean about his infidelity in the past. He cares about you very much and holds a lot of guilt inside of him over is indiscretion. The problem though is that I do not feel he was being truthful. His intention was good, but I sense he held back. He was afraid to be totally open and honest about what he had done and how many times.
I do not sense his infidelities were limited to one time and one woman, as I am picking a relationship he carried on for several months, that he has not told you about, as well as another liaison with someone he was connected to through his employment.
Unfortunately though, those details have nowhere near the impact on your relationship that the lack of trust does. He has shattered your illusions of a loving and stable relationship, and you are left confused and hurt, angry and worried that it will continue to happen. What is important here hun is the decision before you. You know he has been unfaithful to you, you know he has violated your trust, and now what is it you want to do about this.
Healing, working through infidelity, is not an impossible thing, but it does take a lot of work, resolve, and a genuine effort on both parts, to reestablish trust, understanding and openness. You need to look in your heart, and find out if your love is worth hanging on to, worth fighting for, and if he is willing to be there fighting alongside you.
My heart goes out to you, I know this is painful, but it is in your hands.
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