Hello...

Why did the only girl i loved dump me?

Thank you!

Hi hun,

welcome to the forums!

The strongest energy I am picking up in regards of that relationship and the reasons for it ending, is that there was a real sense of crowding on her part. I pick up that she was feeling pushed in a direction she was not comfortable with, like you needed more time, attention and nurturing then she was comfortable giving.

From what I see hun she had a lot of comittment issues that have to do with some hurt she has endured in a past relationship... she has a wall built around her, and you were trying to get through that, so she pushed you away.

I am also picking up that there was someone else... shortly after the end phases of the relationship... that she turned to. Someone she felt more comfortable with because he was not needing or desiring any support or validation from her. It's not so much that she didn't want to be with anyone at all because of her issues... but she really didn't seem to want to be with someone who depended on her and truly cared for her intensely. She wasn't really ready to give, or to be emotionally intimate with anyone.

I know it's hard not to take this as a rejection, or some sort of sign that you weren't good enough... but it's very important for you to take this to heart hun, it wasn't your fault, you had the best of intentions, and as you felt her distancing, you tried to pull her in closer, this happens often, and yes it is painful, but don't let it get you down or make you feel bad about who you are... because you are a great person and you will find happiness with someone in the future.

Best wishes to you hun!

In Love and Light,
Nora

Thank you very much.

You are absolutely right. Looking at it after 3 years from an objective point of view, I can tell that what you said was the REAL reason why she left me. And you are right about someone else. It was like a week after she left me.

I sorted things out in my head...everything is fine now. I guess I just needed a "confirmation" that the reasons she told me were not the real reasons.

Thanks once again!